Mirrors of oneself

I found this picture and quote on facebook this week, and it rang so true, that I thought I'd blog it too.....so as not to lose it!
Read on......

"The only true relationship there is, is with oneself. All "other" relationships are mere mirrors of this to help us awaken to our true nature as pure Love-presence. And as such, these relationships can be used to discover more about who we truly are, and/or peel more onion layers of who we are not.

There is a programmed compulsion to easily blame the other or even oneself. This blame distracts us from our real awakening work, which is to honestly look at oneself with massive amounts of gentleness and compassion. I find that the most effective way to be around this work is neutral. This allows us to "see" clearest, and find that place of "right action" beyond the personality to serve the bigger picture/ the emergence of Love as a collective experience on this planet.

Love & blessings to all courageous beings who are choosing to be in intimate relationships; they can be so challenging but with the right attitude and understanding, they are a fast track to awakening one's genuine and brilliant nature as unconditional Joy, Love and Freedom! ♥"

- Francois Levannier, www.LoveYourLifeAndBusiness.com


It's been a tough ole week, my closest relationships have been steeped in turbulance and negativity....not of my choosing. So to read that our relationships mirror our relationship with ourselves, was a bit of a shock!!  It's not that I haven't heard of it before it's that, it hadn't ever graced my presence, with such turmoil around me.  "Timing is everything" - goes the quote!!!

So I've really had to look within myself to work out what I'm doing and where, I'm slipping up. 
It IS difficult to picking yourself apart to find the negative aspects, (ego) playing games, conjuring up self doubt, and bad feeling.  Ususally by the time you've got to this point, you are mentally fatigued, and although you are aware that you shouldn't have let that voice in your head, sway your heart to such dark depths....you are now so tired that the climb up and out seems monumental.  It isn't as hard as it seems, as long as your aware that the voice calling you back down is not you....not your true self, but your ego.....then the road back up, back to the positive you, becomes easier and lighter with each footstep. 


I'll leave you with this that came to me after mantra......

Do not worry yourself with the wrong doing of others...

To decide they are wrong, is to pass judgement...

And whatever their actions, karma will redress the balance.  

And one last thing........love yourself, for who you are X

Moon - Waning Gibbous 55%

Yoga - Tadasana, Surya Namaskara, Goddess Sequence, Marjaryasana/Bitilasana, Sarvangasana, Matsyasana, Baddhakonasana, Gomukhasana, Arhda Matsyasana, Bhramari & Mantra

Card Message - Ten of Cups (feeling/emotion & heart)
A promise filled.  Dreams really can come true;you can be blessed with good fortune, success, and a warm, loving family.  Rainbows appear after it has rained - the storm is over and the indicationsare that the positive situationwill endure.  Happiness, spiritual and emotional blessings.

15th January - Carmentalia (second festival)
Carmentalia was the feast day (11 January and 15 January) of the Roman goddess Carmenta, an ancient oracle who later was deified by the Romans. She had her temple atop Capitoline Hill. Carmenta was invoked in it as Postvorta and Antevorta, epithets which had reference to her power of looking back into the past and forward into the future. The festival was chiefly observed by women.        

Gratitude - Love

Turning the negatives into positives

There are a lot of good 'sayings' out there and this is one of them.....'Turning the negatives into positives'.

There are lots of times in life that something negative befalls you, and you find yourself resentful of having to deal with it - maybe you feel you didn't deserve it.  We can certainly have days like this, when nothing seems to go right, no matter how hard you wish it otherwise.

Take for example this very blog I'm writing.......

I wrote it all earlier today, but I forgot to save it and now I'm having to remember it all again!! Am I upset, well yeah....a little, but I know that now I'm writing it again, it will be better - a revised version.

There are always different ways to look at any given situation, it's just that when you're in the middle of it, you don't always see all angles.  These different viewpoints give you a better understanding of 'the whole picture', where as usually we only see and feel what is effecting us.  It is better to understand the whole situation and all sides, for then we can truly understand what it is that we have chosen to learn from it. 

There are many, many negative situations that I have encountered thus far in my life and I have found that if I can find the positive aspect in the negative quagmire, it gives me the confidence and strength to stride forth and accept the challenge. 
You have to make things work for you, don't cling to the negative thoughts of 'poor me', focus of the positive ones like 'I can get through this'.  It's all learning......and if we carry a happy heart through life then we can overcome anything we choose. X


Moon - Waning Gibbous 65%

Yoga - Tadasana, Earth Gratitude Sequence, Sarvangasana, Bhujangasana, Balasana, Vrikshasana, Baddhaknoasana, Kurmasana, Ardha Matsyendrasana.

Card Message - Rebirth
You hear the call and awaken to the night light of day.  You have entered the darkness and drunk of the cup of silence.  You have chosen life and emerge reborn.
Following a call. New direction. Renewal. Transformation. Decision-making.
The Power of the Call - You may have heard the call of your vocation, your mission in life, the spiritual path you are seeking, or simply the call of a new direction you need to take.  Rebirth into a life that is more fully your own.  You may have come to a crossroads in your life, and a decision is required that will take you in a new direction.


15th December - Alcyone/Halcyon days commence/Eygptian Day
The Greek goddess Alcyon was symbolised by a Kingfisher.  Her feast day marks the beginning of Halcyon days, seven before and seven after the Winter Solstice.  In ancient Greece, these were days when the sea was smooth, a time of peace when the Kingfisher could hatch her egg.

Fear of Letting Go....My Story

Everyone has down days, when we seem to carrying the weight of the world on our shoulders.  When things are getting us down and we feel stuck in a rut, unable to break through the circles that we seem to be going round and round and round in.  Usually these days just happen when we've "had enough" and don't want to deal with whatever has been thrown at us.  Often issues will be reoccurring, in which case we haven't yet understood what lesson it is, that we are suppose to be learning.  Sometimes this can take a while before we fully see what is happening and what needs to be done, before we can put it behind us.  I'm a great one for this!!

Often though we don't put issues behind us, but instead carry them with us as a heavy weight, growing heavier and heavier with every attached issue.  We all get attached to things, I know I do.  Whether its people, objects, pets, routines, even patterns of thought.....not all are good for us, some of those can be pretty destructive, such as "I'm not very clever" or "I'm useless".  However its not that easy to let go, as we don't like change too often, even if it means it is no longer serving us in positive way, we'd still sometimes rather stay in familiarity of it all. "Better the devil you know", is the saying....but its not always true!!!  We can remain locked, trapped in destructive relationships, or difficult jobs, emotional stress, forever berating ourselves on how poorly we'd performed and how we could have been better.  If its a past issue that has been and gone, but you keep revisiting it over and over, then let it go - you are only causing yourself pain and anguish.  A current issue needs careful thinking over and deciding a plan of action, to stop the negative emotions continually consuming you - say for instance, you don't like your job and its wearing you down, then make plans to make a change....look for a new job perhaps.

In my past I was in a relationship with a very violent man, of course it didn't start off like that.....but over the ensuing months and then years, he showed his true colours.  His pattern was drinking heavily and then abuse and violence in his alcohlic stupor.  He'd wake the next day to find that he'd smashed up the house, beaten me up, or threw me literally out the house and locked the door for the night, whilst my young son was trapped inside with him.   He put me in hospital many times, but I still kept going back and accepting his sober apologies that it wouldn't happen again.  I wasn't fooled, I knew it would, but I was a fool because I kept going back for more abuse.  What I didn't realise was, I was getting stronger, an inner strength, I was becoming more and more switched on and started making plans to end the relationship.  That was the hardest bit, following through!  I was more fearful of change than what I was currently living through, but I knew that I didn't deserve the treatment I was receiving.  I managed it though, with the support of my family and stuck it out on my own.  Once months had past and I really knew that it was over, I felt so happy and was so relieved that I had dealt this issue, I could now put it to bed as it were.
It has in fact taken me a lot longer to deal with it, to stop going over what had happened and wonder did I do enough to support him, maybe if I had been a little bit more understanding of his emotional situation I could have helped him.  I now know that I was keeping myself locked in a cycle of self hurt and in reality he didn't want my help.  Once this realisation was made, I could finally move on with my life and drop this negative baggage for I didn't need it.  Not that long ago I forgave him - not literally, but in my mind.  I set him free from my mind completely and sent him loving thoughts, for I know that he is a soul who has lost his way on his path and the fact that he is unaware, is sad, but it is ultimately of his choosing.

This is of course 'my story' and yours maybe different, but what is the same is the fact that all of us do not need to suffer through life.  We will always be presented with problems and challenges, for its through these that we grow strong, but once dealt with and learnt from, its time to move on.....for we will only live 'this life' once, so make it a happy one.

Moon - Waning Gibbous 75%

Yoga - Stretchy Cat, Mountain, Butterfly, Tortoise, Downward Dog, Upward Dog, Earth Salutation

Card Message - The Fferyllt
Allow inner and outer,
masculine and feminine,
to blend within you to give birth to your Creative Self